Weekends for Kids – Bruises, Blood and Breaks

This image is the not the first we’ve taken of Jonathan with a swollen right eye, nor do we believe it will be the last. I can’t even recall how this particular black eye occurred, because something like this has happened so often.  As if a port wine stain isn’t enough for this side of his face (by the way, the other eye has never been injured)! Of course, with four under 6, we get a lot of complaints and whining about “boo-boos” daily.  To properly manage the situation, we’ve created the following rule:  if there is no blood, nothing […]

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Fridays for Family – Date Night Questions

Thanks to a gift certificate and a generous babysitting offer, I’ve got a hot date tonight.  I’ve started off well: I’ve washed the car!  Next, I’ll pick up the kids for her, feed them, grab some inexpensive but beautiful flowers (or another plant she’s been wanting), and spend some time on personal grooming (fingernails, toenails, ears, etc. … the things that many of us guys tend to ignore). But what about planning for the conversation?  I don’t want us to turn into that couple that stares at each other on date night, complimenting the bread. Brian Croft to the rescue. […]

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Porn (How to Erect a Modern-Day Asherah Pole)

I’ve been preparing for a lot premarital counseling coming my way this summer.  This plus “Weinergate” has me on the search for great resources on pornography, and there is (thankfully) no shortage.  I’ve found Tim Chester’s book, Closing the Window, to be extremely helpful in my preparation.  Here are 7 of his 12 reasons to give up porn, with some commentary from me. It wrecks our view of sex.  Expectations are premeditated resentments.  Porn sex isn’t marital sex.  When men even briefly expose their minds to the fantasies portrayed in pornography, they bring resentment into the bedroom. It wrecks our […]

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Grace, not an Afterlife Experience, is the Chief Apologetic

A couple of weeks ago, our family participated in a neighborhood BBQ.  It afforded us the opportunity to break some relational ground with a few of our neighbors.  Having foster kids of another ethnicity and being a family in ministry, it’s inevitable that our conversations eventually turn to things of the church, religion, the Bible, etc. In one such conversation, a neighbor asked if we had read the book “Heaven is for Real.” We had not, so our neighbor ran into the house and gave us her copy, which I have skimmed and read reviews about online. I am not […]

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Three Reasons to Plant or Revitalize in the Deep South

In August of 2010, Jared Wilson posted a great article on The Resurgence blog on why church planters should consider planting in New England.  He gives three primary reasons: New England is the least-churched area in the nation. New England’s few existing churches are not Gospel-wakened. New England is spiritually fertile. Using his template, I would like to give three reasons why men should consider a pastoral ministry given to church planting or revitalizing an existing congregation in the deep south. First, the Southeast is the most-churched area in the nation.  I am presuming, of course, that this is technically […]

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What, Indeed, Does Make us Southern Baptist?

This post is in response to an article by Brad Whitt, Pastor of Temple Baptist Church in Simpsonville, SC.  I encourage your to read his post here first.  I attempted to place this post on Brad’s blog, but the comment has not been published for about 2 weeks. Dear Brad, I appreciate your approach at defining Southern Baptist distinctions. It’s an important question, and its answers are far reaching into virtually every area of Southern Baptist life. Southern Baptist “born-and bred” like you, I’ve wrestled with these questions as well, and appreciate the opportunity to interact with you a bit […]

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Cotton Candy Church

One of my favorite memories from our family’s trip to Disney World last year is of my 5 year-old son eating a grotesquely large wad of pink cotton candy from one hand, and a soft-serve vanilla ice cream cone from the other.   This delectable diet, in partnership with cool weather and short lines at the happiest place on earth, created a seemingly irreproducible sense of euphoria in my son.  For at least 30 minutes, he was on Cotton Candy Cloud Nine. Predictably, mere minutes after completing his “lunch,” my son’s demeanor went from angelic to demonic.  One minute, he […]

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