Porn (How to Erect a Modern-Day Asherah Pole)

I’ve been preparing for a lot premarital counseling coming my way this summer.  This plus “Weinergate” has me on the search for great resources on pornography, and there is (thankfully) no shortage.  I’ve found Tim Chester’s book, Closing the Window, to be extremely helpful in my preparation.  Here are 7 of his 12 reasons to give up porn, with some commentary from me. It wrecks our view of sex.  Expectations are premeditated resentments.  Porn sex isn’t marital sex.  When men even briefly expose their minds to the fantasies portrayed in pornography, they bring resentment into the bedroom. It wrecks our […]

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Grace, not an Afterlife Experience, is the Chief Apologetic

A couple of weeks ago, our family participated in a neighborhood BBQ.  It afforded us the opportunity to break some relational ground with a few of our neighbors.  Having foster kids of another ethnicity and being a family in ministry, it’s inevitable that our conversations eventually turn to things of the church, religion, the Bible, etc. In one such conversation, a neighbor asked if we had read the book “Heaven is for Real.” We had not, so our neighbor ran into the house and gave us her copy, which I have skimmed and read reviews about online. I am not […]

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Monday Morning Humor – Where did you get this shampoo?!

This video brings back wonderful memories of college. The time we duplicated a roommate’s car key and moved his car around the parking lot while he was in class. The time we left thawed pork brains hidden in the half-bath of another friend’s apartment. The time we put hundreds of election signs in the front yard of that same apartment. The time that friend put a dead squirrel in our doorway. The time that friend released hundreds of crickets in our apartment.

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Weekends are for Kids

My youngest son, Jonathan, is 5 years old, and he has a unique way with words … with expressing his feelings or his experiences in a unique way that is often humorous. Consider the way he recently explained what happens to him when he falls asleep:  “My eyes either give me a movie or a video game.  Last night, it was Mario Kart.  It was the Moo-Moo Meadows race, only harder.”  Just a few days ago, my wife pulled back the curtain in his bedroom as he was waking up, filling the room with sunlight.  His response was classic:  “Mom, […]

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Friday's are for Family

In this 5-minute video, pastors and theologians D. A. Carson, John Piper, and Tim Keller discuss marital longevity.  Admittedly, the discussion is a bit lofty, yet not without humor.  However, I think Piper’s opening point is the most crucial, which he pulls from Dietrich Bonhoeffer:  the covenant of marriage sustains the love of marriage … the love in marriage does not sustain the covenant.

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The Pastor's Pay and the Congregation's Obedience

I saw this on the Church Matters blog this week and found it very intriguing. Consider these figures compiled by the Schaeffer Institute: Hours and Pay 90% of the pastors report working between 55 to 75 hours per week. 50% feel unable to meet the demands of the job. 70% of pastors feel grossly underpaid. Training and Preparedness 90% feel they are inadequately trained to cope with the ministry demands. 90% of pastors said the ministry was completely different than what they thought it would be like before they entered the ministry. Health and Well-Being 70% of pastors constantly fight depression. 50% of pastors feel so discouraged that they would leave the ministry if they could, but have no other […]

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Three Reasons to Plant or Revitalize in the Deep South

In August of 2010, Jared Wilson posted a great article on The Resurgence blog on why church planters should consider planting in New England.  He gives three primary reasons: New England is the least-churched area in the nation. New England’s few existing churches are not Gospel-wakened. New England is spiritually fertile. Using his template, I would like to give three reasons why men should consider a pastoral ministry given to church planting or revitalizing an existing congregation in the deep south. First, the Southeast is the most-churched area in the nation.  I am presuming, of course, that this is technically […]

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What, Indeed, Does Make us Southern Baptist?

This post is in response to an article by Brad Whitt, Pastor of Temple Baptist Church in Simpsonville, SC.  I encourage your to read his post here first.  I attempted to place this post on Brad’s blog, but the comment has not been published for about 2 weeks. Dear Brad, I appreciate your approach at defining Southern Baptist distinctions. It’s an important question, and its answers are far reaching into virtually every area of Southern Baptist life. Southern Baptist “born-and bred” like you, I’ve wrestled with these questions as well, and appreciate the opportunity to interact with you a bit […]

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Cotton Candy Church

One of my favorite memories from our family’s trip to Disney World last year is of my 5 year-old son eating a grotesquely large wad of pink cotton candy from one hand, and a soft-serve vanilla ice cream cone from the other.   This delectable diet, in partnership with cool weather and short lines at the happiest place on earth, created a seemingly irreproducible sense of euphoria in my son.  For at least 30 minutes, he was on Cotton Candy Cloud Nine. Predictably, mere minutes after completing his “lunch,” my son’s demeanor went from angelic to demonic.  One minute, he […]

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